I felt the need to write this message to all of my single sisters out there that are flocking to the movies to see “Think Like A Man Too.” You are ranting and raving about how awesome the book and movies are, and how much insight it gave you. So I need to have a “keep it real” moment with you….. Warning: this is probably not a “feel good” post, but it is from the heart. It is not my intention to make anyone feel judged, and please believe I am writing about this because I have experienced it myself.
According to the infamous 90-day Rule, you should make a man wait 3 months to prove that he is genuinely interested in you before you sleep with him. Let’s break that down- this means you could be hypothetically be ‘doing it’ to 4 new guys every year and not even thinking twice about it…. After all, they each waited 90 days to get to know you, right? With this mentality, let’s just say you were hypothetically intimate with 4 new guys per year for 10 years? That’s 40 sexual partners, all because you wanted to “think like a man”! Girl, you need to go “think like a nun” and sit cho’ hot tail down somewhere before you end up “thinking like a baby momma” and chasing him down for child support. This mindset is destructive and will bring so much unnecessary stress and drama into your life. Not to mention the fact that Steve Harvey just told us our lady part was worth a measly 3 months- and we believed him.
Ladies, let me explain something to you- if you make a man wait 90 days before you sleep with him, guess what?
- He’s gonna be on his best behavior for 90 days
- While sleeping with the next chick for 89.5 days,
- And come knocking on your door on the 91st day saying “hey, it’s time to pay me what you owe me”!
It’s far too easy to get sex nowadays-you really can’t, (and shouldn’t want to), use it to control his behavior. It’s manipulative, and your womanhood is worth far more than a 90-day grace period. I don’t care what you did in the past- your purity is priceless. You are 150% worth the wait! My dear sister, you deserve to be relentlessly pursued for as long as it takes.
The 90-day Rule also sends a man the message that sex is a reward that he is entitled to because he is on his best behavior. He should be on his best behavior because YOU ARE A QUEEN and you deserve to be treated with dignity and respect JUST FOR BEING YOU; whether you are “giving it up” or not. He does not deserve sex for treating you like a lady. So from here on out, please tell him, “respecting me and treating me like the amazing woman that I am is not conditional on when you will get laid… It’s a requirement sir.”
Bonus: If you really want to “think like a man”, just know that a man is smiling in your face, and laughing behind your back for thinking that you could actually change his mindset and moral compass by withholding sex from him for 90 days. He now thinks you’re predictable, and kinda easy. Now that’s some “thinking like a man for you”. #ToughLove
God didn’t intend for women to think like men. We are wired differently intentionally. And when it is done correctly, we come together in perfect harmony and beautifully balance each other. You don’t need to think like a man. You need to think like a Christian. Think like somebody who is SAVED. Think like a Savior who loved us so much that He died for our sins! Thinking like a man is what got most of us in the position we’re in now. Furthermore, why are we taking advice from Steve Harvey who is divorced after cheating and allegedly beating on his wife? He needs to start thinking like a Christian too. And a true Christian supposedly “trying to help single women” wouldn’t market a book toward Christian Singles that encourages premarital sex. That’s not the Word. Steve Harvey, you mad? sue me. This is not a protest to the movie, just an opposition to some of its concepts.
So the next time you feel the burning urge to “think like a man”, I encourage you to “think like a wife”. You are one of God’s most precious jewels.
New Living Translation Romans:12:2
Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
One time for the nation,
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