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Single and Surviving the Holidays

Here comes Christmas. New Years is right behind it. And before you know it, Valentine’s Day will be here too.

It’s the time of year that most single people dread: the infamous “season of love”. And with it comes dozens of engagement announcements and happy pics of people exchanging gifts and kisses under the mistletoe. Let’s not get started on the annoying social media overload. Everywhere we go, it will seem that we are surrounded by happy couples embracing in the winter breeze. As single ladies, it is easy to feel forgotten when we already know that we won’t be receiving a special gift from a special guy on Christmas Day.

No matter how many wonderful things happened all year long, we are forced to face the stinging reality that we are once again experiencing “the most wonderful time of the year” alone.

Sadly, the holidays are notorious for magnifying feelings of loneliness and discontentment.

I wrote this to remind you that God has not forgotten about you! Do you know what God can do in 1 year? 1 month? Heck, 1 day?! Your entire life can literally change in 2015! But you have to capture and cast down those negative thoughts before they even have a chance to take root in your life.

Here are my top Do’s and Don’ts for Holiday Survival

  1. Don’t be DESPERATE. I get it. You are over being single. But this is not the time to start lowering your standards just to have someone to kiss when the ball drops on New Year’s Eve. You’ve come too far to settle on some lame who wants to use you for your tax refund check. Yes sis, be cautious ‘cause tis the season to play ya’self! Back away from eHarmony, and remember that you deserve God’s best. You don’t want to wake up this spring and realize that you’ve wasted 4 months on a clown who shouldn’t have even made it past hello.
  2. Don’t get DISTRACTED. We must remember that Jesus truly is the reason for the season. Sometimes, we become so focused on marriage that we unintentionally make it an idol. Don’t let the enemy turn your godly desire to marry, into a divine distraction. Focus on Christ, not your relationship status! Seek ye first the Kingdom sis……
  3. Don’t DWELL. If you went through a bad break up, loss, or disappointment this year, you don’t have to carry that weight into the new year. No matter how many mistakes you made in 2014, you can be free and forgiven in the name of Jesus. Renew your mind, forgive those who hurt you, and let God do a new thing in 2015. And absolutely no more tears over that failed relationship, we are moving forward!
  4. Do IT UP! Go ice skating with your friends! Put on that fancy holiday cocktail dress and take yourself to dinner. Roll solo to the Christmas party and have a great time. Treat yourself to a massage. Be good to YOU! Just because you are unmarried doesn’t mean you have to lack a great quality of life.
  5. Do DEVOTE and DEDICATE time to helping others. As singles, it is easy to become selfish, when all we have to worry about is self. Please use some of your free time to feed the homeless, babysit for your hardworking married friend, or sing Christmas carols at a local senior home. Never underestimate the power of sharing the love of Christ by helping others.
  6. Do DISCOVER your purpose and DELIGHT in the Lord! Has He revealed your purpose to you? Write it down. Did He tell you to quit that dead end job and finish that degree you’ve been putting off? Did He release you to move to a new city or instruct you write your first book in 2015? Well, what are you waiting for? It’s time…….

I pray that this meets you where you are, and that you will enjoy every moment of this special season celebrating the birth of Jesus and reflecting on how far you’ve come in 2014! Remember, a special “Guy” already gave you a special gift in the form of eternal life. Don’t take your singleness for granted, for it is much better to be single than with the wrong one.

Psalm 37:4 “Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart”

One time for the nation,


About Saved Single ME

Christian, cupcake lover, owl collector, Grad student, Carter's Aunt, part-time extrovert, pink Starburst on deck, secretly loves listening to Christmas music year-round, secretly fears robots #Huglife

1 Comment
  • Ashley
    December 17, 2014

    Just wanted to say I really enjoy your blog because I can relate to it soo much! (I’m 26 and single) My two best friends got married during the same weekend last month so I feel extra single these days. However, I appreciate the fact that there’s people like you who know that God has someone just for you, but understands the struggle while waiting. Anyway, keep up the great work and I look forward to more of your posts!

    Much love,

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