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MIND YOUR BUSINESS: Dangerous Comparisons

Back in the day when my mother graduated high school, she had to wait 10 years, and sometimes even longer, to see what her former classmates were up to. She had to anxiously show up to her high school reunion, or randomly run into them at the grocery store, or pick up the telephone to call them (and hope the phone number hadn’t been disconnected), to find out what was happening in their life.

I, however, have to see what my former classmates are doing EVERY FREAKING DAY. There is no point of a high school reunion- I already know who has kids, who is gay, who got married, who got divorced,who purchased their first home, who is a diabetic, who died, who hates Taylor Swift, and who went to Burger King for lunch. The answers to every question that I could ever have are on my newsfeed. And if I’m brutally honest….. it used to make me feel like I was loser who was falling behind.

If you are reading this and are currently feeling like the “life loser” who has fallen behind, ask yourself  WHO TOLD YOU THAT LIE?

I want you to know that right now, at this moment, today you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Stop comparing your life to other peoples. If you don’t make as much money as you’d like to, if you don’t have the nicest car, if you feel like great things are happening to everyone but you, if you are sick of the student loan people calling your phone and sending you letters reminding you that you’re delinquent (as if you don’t already know), or if you are stressing about not having a hot husband and gorgeous wedding pics to post on Facebook, chill out. And take a social media detox for a while. It’s a liar filling your head with half-truths.

I noticed how much happier and content I became with my own life when I stopped forcing myself to constantly see every person that I’ve ever met having babies and getting married, and getting great jobs, and taking luxury vacations around the world on a daily basis. Good for them. I’m not a hater- I have just chosen to stop letting other peoples progress make me feel like I’m lacking something, because IT’S NOT TRUE. I am happy and prayerful that they are living the life of their dreams. But in the grand scheme of things, THEIR lives and happiness have absolutely nothing to do with MINE and the path that God has for me.

………Because I am exactly where I am supposed to be, I have exactly what I am supposed to have, and I am doing exactly what I am supposed to be doing right now, at this moment, today.

I encourage you to choose happiness today. Money is not the solution to your problems; if it was millionaires wouldn’t be committing suicide. Marriage is not the solution to your problems; if it was we wouldn’t have so many people getting divorced. A new car is not the solution, liposuction is not the solution, a shopping spree is not the solution, and closure from the ex that broke your heart is not the solution. The void in your heart and that sinking feeling that you are falling behind can only be resolved with contentment, gratefulness, and the realization that you are exactly where GOD meant for you to be.You have 1,000 reasons to smile.

Proverbs 16:9 “The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.”

One time for the nation,


About Saved Single ME

Christian, cupcake lover, owl collector, Grad student, Carter's Aunt, part-time extrovert, pink Starburst on deck, secretly loves listening to Christmas music year-round, secretly fears robots #Huglife

  • Ann
    June 6, 2015

    I recently decided to avoid Instagram at all costs. I believe it’s one of the worst social media sites to date, because it promotes vanity more than anything else, considering its all about images.

    Sometimes I would find myself scrolling through people’s pictures and I would get SO depressed, feeling like I am the biggest loser on the planet, like I am ugly, like I am a big fat failure, because everyone was posting pictures of new cars and new homes, new shoes and new handbags, pictures of vacations, hot boyfriends/husbands etc. And I would always walk away feeling crazy depressed.

    One week I decided to avoid Instagram and do not log onto social media unless I absolutely HAVE to. Let me tell you, it made a HUGE difference. Not having everyone’s “fabulous” lives and achievements being constantly shoved down my throat made me feel so light, and I was able to look at MY life and appreciate all that I had and where I was. I would continue to repeat Joyce Meyer’s saying, “I’m not where I want to be, but thank God I’m not where I used to be. It’s okay, I’m on my way.”

    Since then, I have deleted Instagram from my phone and tablet. These things will ruin you and constantly make you feel like what you have and where you are isn’t enough! Take action and cut anything out of your life that makes you feel bad about yourself.

    Try not to have an earthly focus, but a heavenly focus. Take your eyes off the things seen, and focus on the things unseen. God is EVERYTHING we need.

  • kristie
    October 1, 2014

    Yes yes yes!! Right on target Britt.

  • Courtney
    August 11, 2014

    This is awesome. Thank you! I discovered your via maybe Saturday I thought I read all of your blogs but I was lead out to go back to your site and stumbled upon this.

  • Jayleesa
    July 29, 2014

    I love this.

  • Esther
    June 10, 2014

    This is soooo TRUE! We tend to think we always have to have someone around; if not we feel as though we can never be alone. I don’t have too many exes, but I have had some disappointments in my life that I know what you’re talking about. The relationships that I was in, I thought they were good solid relationships. Maybe I could marry them. Although for some reason I had so much sense as a youngster, I chose who I wanted to date, literally! There were only two serious relationships I have been in, which includes my husband. He was the best thing that ever happened to me. Yes, we got married young, when we know Christ together and put God as the head of our household then we grow together without ever growing apart.

  • Terence Brown
    June 7, 2014

    My home girl… always preaching the truth. I love this article. It makes me remember why I hadn’t touched Facebook in about 6 months and counting. The honest truth is that we all post pictures of the best moments of our lives not the worst. I’m a fan and looking forward to more articles.
    P.S. I miss “The Infamous Ice Queen”

  • Delilah C.
    June 6, 2014

    Love it! Encouraging and powerful words! Thank you! *mwah~!

  • enchantedroots
    June 5, 2014

    This was spot on Brittanee!! As one of the first in my class to “find love, get married and have a baby” I can attest that even reaching those milestones are not a guarantee to fulfilment! We are all blessed, and what’s more, we are all blessed with trials and tribulations. Thanks for sharing!

  • marion shontz
    June 5, 2014

    AWWW a breath of fresh air. Living life means living your life. A great reminder.

  • Tiffany
    June 5, 2014

    THis really made me think about my life and why I think I should compare myself with others. I shouldnt. Every choice I have made up till now made me who i am today and at one point is was exactly what i wanted. I need to stop wanting more and start realizing that where i am now, what i have now, and what I am doing now is great and exatly what and where i am supposed to be. Thank you Britt and I hope to hear more from you soon!

  • Chanel
    June 5, 2014

    Beautifully put sis !!!

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