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Bound2: Breaking Soul Ties

Have you ever felt that sinking feeling when you see your ex’s name pop up in your Facebook newsfeed? Do you still cringe when his birthday rolls around, or feel a tad bit jealous when you see him with a new person? You may have a soul tie. This post was done in love, because I believe so many of us are walking around with attachments to people God never intended to be with.

What Is A Soul Tie?

Soul ties describe the attachment we have to others through shared experiences, vows, and physical intimacy. There are good soul ties, such as the ones formed between a husband and wife. And there are bad soul ties, like the ones that are formed when we choose to be intimate with a person who is not our spouse.

Soul ties cause our spirit to be attached and connected to another persons spirit. As you can imagine, when formed outside of marriage, this is very dangerous and could potentially subject you to all types of demonic attacks, perversions, and craziness. Especially if the person who you formed the soul tie with has a spirit that just “ain’t right.”

The bible describes the act of marriage as becoming “1 Flesh” with another person. This means, anytime you sleep with someone, YOUR SPIRIT MARRIES THEM. You are opening yourself up to any demons, flaws, or behaviors that person possesses. For example- if you are sleeping with a liar, don’t be surprised if you find yourself lying. If you are sleeping with a person with anger problems, it’s likely that you will become easily angered. If they are suicidal, you may become suicidal. Since sex=spiritual marriage, a breakup= spiritual divorce. So, the reason it hurt so bad when you guys broke up, is your spirit literally went through a divorce with that person! relationship-break-ups-dealing-with-grief-of-separation

Not to mention that you are also forming a bond to any other person that they have ever slept with. If they slept with 17 people before sleeping with you, you now have 18 soul ties to deal with! Crazy right? But this is exactly how satan plants confusion in your life. He knows that you will eventually lose yourself in all of the soul ties floating around in your heart.

As woman, we ESPECIALLY have to be careful with whom we form soul ties with. When you marry a man, you take on HIS last name. In other words, you take on HIS identity. You will be a reflection of HIM. And since marriage is described as becoming “1 Flesh”, just like you can take on the identity of your future husband……… you can also take on the identity of your boyfriend, or friend with benefits, or one night stand, or any guy that you sleep with! If you can’t say that you would be proud to take on his identity, Sis you shouldn’t be sleeping with him.

Before I was SAVED, I noticed that I literally began to take on the characteristics of the boyfriends I was intimate with. If he cursed a lot, I cursed a lot. If he liked to drink, I liked to drink. If he was confused, I became confused. If he hated church, I hated church. I literally began to take on the identities of the men that I formed unhealthy soul ties with. This is why it is so important for us to be selective about who we marry or even sleep with. YOU WILL BECOME 1 FLESH. Do you want to become “1 FLesh” with a man who hates God, has no ambition, is abusive, indecisive, irresponsible, or lazy? If not, don’t form soul ties with him. He is what you will become.

1 Corinthians 6:16

“Or do you not know and realize that when a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? The two, it is written, shall become one flesh.”

This picture may "look" normal, but it was when I was in a very dark place. I didn't care about my life, who I hurt, or where I was heading. I was lost and confused.

Soul Ties Steal Your Light: This picture may “look” normal, but it was when I was in a very dark place. I didn’t care about my life, who I hurt, or where I was heading. I was lost and confused- just like the guys I formed soul ties with.

Lastly, soul ties can also be formed with words. That time you told your ex, “I will never love somebody the way that I love you” or  “me and you will be together forever”- Sis, that was a soul tie. It was a contract that you spoke into existence. If you are wondering why it’s been so hard to let that person go, or why your stomach drops every time you hear his name (even though ya’ll broke up 4 years ago), you still have a soul tie with him.

Thankfully, God is merciful and forgiving! He has given us the power to cancel those contracts. So today, it’s time to break those soul ties in Jesus name!

No matter what you did in your past, you can be free. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Give your heart to God and let Him restore you. Below is a soul tie prayer. Feel free to personalize it and make it your own.

Dear Heavenly Father,

I come to You asking for Your forgiveness and confessing that I have fallen. I thank You for Your grace and mercy, and ask that you cancel the soul tie and any unhealthy attachment that I have formed with________________ in Jesus name. I realize that I was out of Your will, and I am ready to do things Your way. I ask that You heal me, and keep me in perfect peace. I cancel any assignment from satan that was intended to leave me confused, tormented, hurt, or rejected in Jesus name. I thank You even now. Amen.

Say this prayer for every individual you have formed an ungodly soul tie with, and watch God work! I love you guys so much, and I am so grateful for the support, emails, messages, and comments- I read every single one  🙂

I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic!

One time for the nation,


About Saved Single ME

Christian, cupcake lover, owl collector, Grad student, Carter's Aunt, part-time extrovert, pink Starburst on deck, secretly loves listening to Christmas music year-round, secretly fears robots #Huglife

  • Richard
    July 5, 2015

    Beautiful article.. thank you for listening to God

  • Angela
    March 8, 2015

    Sister girl! I just want to give you a big hug every blog you wrote about was so on time its like every topic I struggled with you covered ,its very encouraging to know I’m not alone and no weapon formed against me shall prosper .Glory to God! I thank God for you ..May God continue to use you and may God continue to bless you.

  • N. Felder
    November 13, 2014

    My husband forwarded me a post of yours on fb. I read it and fell in love with your blog. Keep up the fantastic work!

  • mariel
    September 24, 2014

    Thank you so much for sharing this… I’ve heard many Pastors speak about how satan uses premarital sex/sexual immorality as a way to confuse and entrap believers. I’ve never really heard of anyone referring to “soul ties” but I totally get it and this blog post really spoke to my spirit. So God bless you and know that you touched my life today (=

  • Jen Lee
    August 19, 2014

    Thank u for addressing this issue. Will continue to pray that prayer. May we all be loosed in Jesus name and not return to this bondage. God bless u Britt.

  • Girllllll
    August 16, 2014

    I don’t know why I really dislike my boyfriend’s exes… is that a soul tie thing? Or just jealously and my own hatred towards them? Ahh lol. I am saving myself for marriage but he did not and yes I feel cheated out of that…. and to know he was intimate with them, yeah…. I don’t know how I can justify things (I know I am supposed to forgive, but I say I do and I still don’t like the ex gfs). Whatcha think?

  • Me
    August 12, 2014

    Britt I just wanted to say stay encouraged. Not all will be pleased by what you speak and as you grow in your walk you’ll look back and receive deeper revelation. Take absolutely nothing personal. Your job is to be a vessel however you allow yourself to be used. I too went and without intentionally doing it noticed the same things while I was there. My prayer was for whatever reason I was there whether led by Him or self let me be used in the best way possible in the purest form of Love available. My prayer for everyone is to receive pure Love. In Love revelation will be received no matter what “Source” gives the information. In all this debate no one can deny Love is the main purpose. So in Love I encourage you to keep growing never be stagnant. In Love, I applaud you for speaking and being open about your feelings allowing all to know you in this moment. In Love, I ask you to exist and coexist exemplifying total and complete pure Love. You’ll never go wrong!

    Stay encouraged!

  • PhePhe
    August 9, 2014

    I was raised a christian but I no longer believe certain things like that a women takes on her mans identity and becomes a reflection of him. Women are not property. I truly believe that as a historian its something that has been reinforced by society and so many religions that people think this kind of thinking is okay but its so demeaning and dangerous. How can a young women who hears this truly value herself as an individual? This sounds so bleak and hopeless for a feminist to read. Anyway…you’re a lovely girl and I accidentally stumbled upon your blog but best of luck to ya.

  • God Chaser
    August 7, 2014

    So true…I was just thinking today why can’t I not break the emotional tie that I have with someone I have dealt with for over 10 years. Right on time word..may God bless you!

  • sabrina
    July 30, 2014

    Funny that I read this the day after ending he 2nd/3rd/4th chance.. This time though I felt at peace however my earthly desires still bring hurt to what it didn’t turn out to be

  • Danielle
    July 29, 2014

    Love this and love you! Such an amazing post! So many people still have soul ties and the bondage that comes with them without even knowing it! Keep spreading these fantastic truths!

  • Brittny
    July 29, 2014

    Much needed info. Thank you my love

  • Chris
    July 29, 2014

    I love it Britt! All this info is relevant and useful to someone trying to live a pure life! Keep doing all that you do! The prayer was Glorious!

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