Have you ever felt that sinking feeling when you see your ex’s name pop up in your Facebook newsfeed? Do you still cringe when his birthday rolls around, or feel a tad bit jealous when you see him with a new person? You may have a soul tie. This post was done in love, because I believe so many of us are walking around with attachments to people God never intended to be with.
What Is A Soul Tie?
Soul ties describe the attachment we have to others through shared experiences, vows, and physical intimacy. There are good soul ties, such as the ones formed between a husband and wife. And there are bad soul ties, like the ones that are formed when we choose to be intimate with a person who is not our spouse.
Soul ties cause our spirit to be attached and connected to another persons spirit. As you can imagine, when formed outside of marriage, this is very dangerous and could potentially subject you to all types of demonic attacks, perversions, and craziness. Especially if the person who you formed the soul tie with has a spirit that just “ain’t right.”
The bible describes the act of marriage as becoming “1 Flesh” with another person. This means, anytime you sleep with someone, YOUR SPIRIT MARRIES THEM. You are opening yourself up to any demons, flaws, or behaviors that person possesses. For example- if you are sleeping with a liar, don’t be surprised if you find yourself lying. If you are sleeping with a person with anger problems, it’s likely that you will become easily angered. If they are suicidal, you may become suicidal. Since sex=spiritual marriage, a breakup= spiritual divorce. So, the reason it hurt so bad when you guys broke up, is your spirit literally went through a divorce with that person!
Not to mention that you are also forming a bond to any other person that they have ever slept with. If they slept with 17 people before sleeping with you, you now have 18 soul ties to deal with! Crazy right? But this is exactly how satan plants confusion in your life. He knows that you will eventually lose yourself in all of the soul ties floating around in your heart.
As woman, we ESPECIALLY have to be careful with whom we form soul ties with. When you marry a man, you take on HIS last name. In other words, you take on HIS identity. You will be a reflection of HIM. And since marriage is described as becoming “1 Flesh”, just like you can take on the identity of your future husband……… you can also take on the identity of your boyfriend, or friend with benefits, or one night stand, or any guy that you sleep with! If you can’t say that you would be proud to take on his identity, Sis you shouldn’t be sleeping with him.
Before I was SAVED, I noticed that I literally began to take on the characteristics of the boyfriends I was intimate with. If he cursed a lot, I cursed a lot. If he liked to drink, I liked to drink. If he was confused, I became confused. If he hated church, I hated church. I literally began to take on the identities of the men that I formed unhealthy soul ties with. This is why it is so important for us to be selective about who we marry or even sleep with. YOU WILL BECOME 1 FLESH. Do you want to become “1 FLesh” with a man who hates God, has no ambition, is abusive, indecisive, irresponsible, or lazy? If not, don’t form soul ties with him. He is what you will become.
1 Corinthians 6:16
“Or do you not know and realize that when a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? The two, it is written, shall become one flesh.”
Lastly, soul ties can also be formed with words. That time you told your ex, “I will never love somebody the way that I love you” or “me and you will be together forever”- Sis, that was a soul tie. It was a contract that you spoke into existence. If you are wondering why it’s been so hard to let that person go, or why your stomach drops every time you hear his name (even though ya’ll broke up 4 years ago), you still have a soul tie with him.
Thankfully, God is merciful and forgiving! He has given us the power to cancel those contracts. So today, it’s time to break those soul ties in Jesus name!
No matter what you did in your past, you can be free. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Give your heart to God and let Him restore you. Below is a soul tie prayer. Feel free to personalize it and make it your own.
Dear Heavenly Father,
I come to You asking for Your forgiveness and confessing that I have fallen. I thank You for Your grace and mercy, and ask that you cancel the soul tie and any unhealthy attachment that I have formed with________________ in Jesus name. I realize that I was out of Your will, and I am ready to do things Your way. I ask that You heal me, and keep me in perfect peace. I cancel any assignment from satan that was intended to leave me confused, tormented, hurt, or rejected in Jesus name. I thank You even now. Amen.
Say this prayer for every individual you have formed an ungodly soul tie with, and watch God work! I love you guys so much, and I am so grateful for the support, emails, messages, and comments- I read every single one 🙂
I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic!
One time for the nation,