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26 and Single: When You Catch the Bouquet, but Can’t Catch the Boo

imageYes. That is me. On the floor. Savagely clinging to the bouquet I just nearly had a  brawl over. And since the day this picture was taken at my dear friend Dani’s wedding 2 years ago, EVERY one of my friends in the pic now has a serious boyfriend, or a shiny new engagement ring. And me….. well, I have a bruise on my thigh from diving to the floor. So much for that “whoever catches the bouquet is next” bologna. Who made that crap up anyway?

I look back at this picture and chuckle. At the tender age of 24, I was desperate to become and wife a mother. I looked forward to changing dirty diapers and baking star-shaped cookies for my kiddos. I couldn’t wait to go on vacations with my new hubby, and pick out color coordinated cardigans for our annual family greeting card. And, I guess I’m still looking forward to those things (minus the corny matching cardigans). But catching the bouquet that day taught me a lesson. My life is not controlled by superstitions, traditions, or an imaginary clock that is telling me that  I am running out of time; it is controlled by God.  And His purpose for me is greater than becoming a wife and baby factory. Having a family someday may become the icing, but it’s definitely not the Brittaneé cake.


Sis, don’t you spend another moment worrying about “when” and “if” you will get married. The beautiful thing about meeting your future husband is it will probably happen on an ordinary day, just like this one. Nobody wakes up in the morning and says, “Yay, I’m so excited! I get to meet my dream guy today!” It sorta just happens…… Kinda like death. You know it’s eventually coming, but you  really don’t want to know exactly when because you’ll obsess over it. (Insert invitation to salvation message: choose Christ and you can have everlasting life!)image

What God has for you, is FOR YOU. And it will happen when it is supposed to. Trying to rush the process will only make you bitter. Disappointment is caused by unmet expectations. So, if you are walking around convincing yourself that you will be married by age 28, you will be highly disappointed if it still has not happened by your 29th birthday. You have too much life to live and a special purpose to accomplish during your short time on this earth. If you really begin to embrace the Single life in Christ, you will not be focused on being the next in line to get married.

It’s time to get busy! Have  you discovered what God has called you to do? Pay off those credit cards, hit the gym, take that fabulous vacation with your girls, buy those shoes, eat 2 pieces of cake, forget to wash the dishes, and enjoy the free time you get to spend developing a strong relationship with God. Though I have never been married, I believe this is one of the most important components of a lasting relationship. Christian divorce rates are not much different than anybody else’s. That means we are missing the mark, and are collectively losing sight of the purpose of marriage. Loving God won’t necessarily prevent a future divorce, but it will give you (and hopefully your spouse), the patience and tools needed to stick it out through life’s storms.

The average marriage that ends in divorce last about 8 years. That is why we have so many people getting married in their 20’s & divorced in their 30’s. Instead of being jealous of all the people you see getting married, PRAY FOR THEM. Unfortunately, many of them won’t make it. I don’t say that to be negative, but to make it known that Satan is on a mission to destroy the sanctity of marriage, and he is doing a great job. PLEASE, use your time as a Single to learn about nurturing a successful marriage. There are thousands of books out there, and the Bible is one of the most important. When I began reading/understanding the qualities of a good wife and mother, I definitely did not make the cut. But, it allowed me to identify my weak areas (like laziness, pride, and being argumentative), so that I could allow God to CHANGE me. My future husband will be alot happier on the day we marry now, than he ever could have been with my attitude and selfishness 2 years ago.

If you want to walk down the aisle so bad, just go to grocery store. My personal fave is Walmart’s aisle 16. It’s super long, has Oreo’s at the end, and is not far from the bacon. So after I walk, I get to buy myself wedding gifts! #winning.

Oh, and next time, I’ll pass on the bouquet toss. I don’t need a floral arrangement to know that God has a special guy waiting on the other side of my obedience.

I love you guys! Thank you for helping my blog reach over 1 MILLION VIEWS! I never take it for granted that you have taken the time to read, share, tweet, comment, pray for, and walk on this journey with me. Just know that I am earnestly praying that you enjoy every moment of your singleness and that you are fully prepared for the blessings coming your way!

 1 Corinthians 7:34 “and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world–how she can please her husband.”

One time for the nation,

~Britt

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About Saved Single ME

Christian, cupcake lover, owl collector, Grad student, Carter's Aunt, part-time extrovert, pink Starburst on deck, secretly loves listening to Christmas music year-round, secretly fears robots #Huglife

12 Comments
  • Angela
    October 3, 2014

    Right on time word just for me. Im to enjoy my singleness and devote mt time to God and not focus on a marriage or relationship because when God is ready, he (special man of God) will come into my life. Amen

  • Denise
    October 3, 2014

    If I had the wisdom you have Britt, I would not be 50!!!!! and single after a 20 year marriage that ended 7 years ago.I have been completely single now for nearly 5 years. It’s tough at my age. Real slim options. But I know God had decades of mess to clean up in my life and He’s not finished.
    I love to learn from the young women God has raised up. You are the same age as my daughters and I pray they do not become a statistic.
    Keep doing what you are called to do. You have a generation of young ladies that need to hear the truth.

  • Brittney
    October 2, 2014

    Wow Britt! You have a way with words and expressing Gods plan and purpose for all of us. Keep up the good work.

  • Kathleen Kelly
    October 2, 2014

    You are wise beyond your years, my young friend. And yes, I do remember you catching that bouquet at Dani’s wedding. Your blog described me – worried about getting married at your age, married by 30, divorced by 35, married the love of my life at 41, celebrating our 19th wedding anniversary next week. Relax, and God’s plan for you will unfold in His time.

  • Chiquita
    October 2, 2014

    I say wait on it. It will come but I know the feeling even though I have a boyfriend. I’m ready to be married. All of my friends are engaged as well. I loved this. good job.

  • amiya
    October 2, 2014

    this message was right on time!! after just having a long conversation with my mom last night about being tired of being singe at 33 years old…i wake up to your blog. thank you for this, it has definitely made me look at things from a different perspective, God’s not done with me yet, I am a work in progress and should definitely enjoy my singleness to focus on a better relationship with Him-and just enjoy only having to be responsible for myself!! and when the time is right, His time—-someone will get this woman that is sooooo awesome!!!! lol
    keep up the good work and congradulations on hitting that 1 million mark

  • sabrina
    October 1, 2014

    You have such a talent to speak in such a way that truly reaches your readers. Its commical but yet reaches close to home while still delivering God’s message! This is true talent.

    I feel you are going through the motions with me. First im wondering y my ex would want to come back and BAM u wrote a story. Then im wondering y I am still tied.. and BAM u write about soul ties now im wondering when god will bless me with the man intended for me and BAM you write this blog!

    • Brittaneé
      October 2, 2014

      Thank you Sabrina, this touched my heart more than you could ever know! Hang in there sis, keep doing the right thing and growing in Christ 🙂

      -Britt

  • l Brent
    October 1, 2014

    I love your blog!! keep up the good work!

  • Ken
    October 1, 2014

    Journalists, which I count you by the quality of your work, not knowing your intent, have to be accurate. a quick Google of “Christian divorce rate” would have shown it is nowhere near 50%. Twenty or less is fair. Fair, accurate, honest and always yielding to the still small voice that says, “Hmm, I’d better check that,” is our reasonable service. Love your work. Agape’

    • Brittaneé
      October 2, 2014

      Hi Ken,
      In the article, I never mentioned a percentage or divorce rate. I am a firm believer that if you cannot conduct the research yourself (and it is not taken from an academic journal/source), it should not be taken as a fact.The reality is, if the divorce rate is only 1% amongst Chrisitans, it is still too high. We must strive to lay better foundations and be more selective about who we choose to spend the rest of our life with. Thank you for taking the time to read my work and I really do appreciate your feedback!

      -Britt

  • Jessica B
    October 1, 2014

    Love it!

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